elilla & friends’ very occasional blog thing

Companion piece to the casual relationship vocabulary.

With the major cultural tradition of my people being “fooling around”, we have developed a rich vocabulary that I miss when I speak English or German or Japanese, so I'm trying to list all terms that I can remember.

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I often tell people: “if you keep a dream journal you’ll be able to have highly elaborate dreams like mine”. The act of keeping a journal primes your subconscious, as if some part of you who makes dreams gets the message and decides to put some effort. Or is that just an idea that makes sense to me so I tell them to people? Truth to be told, I don’t keep a dream journal, except if you count those exceptionally elaborate dreams I post on social media themselves, with Mastodon being my “journal”, or occasional jottings on my bujo when I have that feeling: “I must note this down” without knowing why. I don’t have the cinematic, plot-heavy dreams consistently or often. If I kept a dream journal, would their frequency actually increase?

NetBSD-chan tem uma escrivaninha com todos os cabos perfeitamente organisados e que ela faz faxina toda quinta-feira sem falta. Ela desenvolveu seu próprio sistema de organização pessoal de documentos, inclusive um documento que documenta o sistema de organização de documentos.

NetBSD-chan has a meticulously organised desk that she wipes every Thursday and an elaborate personal document filing system classified by subject and date. One of the documents in the filing system documents the document filing system.

Lately the bottoms I've had the privilege of bedding all have described my fingers with the word “magic”, so I figured I must be doing something right. Might as well write down what I've learned from a lifetime of chasing skirt. My experience, while like, considerable, is of course not universal; bodies work differently, there’s no fixed sex manual, et cetera usw. All of the following applies alike to cis women, trans women with neovag, enbies, and transmasc folk with hole, with little difference—neovag tends to need more care for girth and depth of penetration, and androgenic HRT tends to yield plump, sensitive clitorises; that's about it. Some people easily get super wet, others barely even moist, some people prefer this or that type of stimulation, some orgasm, some don't; but in my experience these traits have much more variation within the genders than between them.

Daguerreotype: Arai Takashi, “Ōsaka-yuri 2,” 2008.

Content notes for this piece: Explicit discussion of sex; historical lesbian art, some of it graphic; BDSM mentions.

When I think of folk I've been with who were equipped with a vagina, almost all can be clearly classified into two general types: the clitoris-oriented, and the penetration-oriented.

I will do something I normally never do here, and make my first ever blog post on the topic of, long sigh: tech. I’ve already talked about Google a number of times on Mastodon which is, blessedly, by design, not discoverable; but I’ve decided to commit the full story to print. Hopefully this won't come back to bite me in the ass but eh it’s the apocalypse, who cares at this point. At least Wordsmith Dot Social is half-abandoned and has no comment system, so I won’t have to deal with techbros batting for billionaires or preaching the power of Open Source (™ Open Source Initiativeⓡ).

But if you clicked this, Dear Reader, then you wanted the tea; and I am nothing if not forthcoming with tea-spilling. The fact that Google fired me with shut-up money only makes it more fun to do it. So go get some chamomile and sit comfortably, for this is an old woman reminiscing; let’s talk about capitalism and anarchism, about the precariat and surveillance, plush dolls and churrascarias and gay argots; let us go back in time and space, and journey to tropical Brazil in the distant time of 2007…

My lesbian experience with topping without testosterone

Content warnings for this one: Text addressed at transfeminine folk; explicit discussion of sex and kink, including sexual experiences, intended as informative rather than erotic but rich in detail; discussion of HRT, surgeries, genitals, gender feelings; reports of a lively sex life; discussion of low libido when perceived as a negative, and of girlcock as positive; corny 5th-grade humour.

I started HRT at 34; I'm now just 41. This is how my breasts look after 6½ years of transition:

Focusing on things that come up frequently and I don’t see explained that often.

Here’s the lede: You can’t ever see or search everything posted on mastodon. You can only see the content that your instance knows about. This has some fascinating, positive, non-obvious implications. For more info on what’s ‘your instance’ and how does it know about stuff, keep reading.

(beta; comments welcome @elilla@transmom.love . thx queers from @embracing.space, @plural.cafe and others for help, if you want to be credited in public just ping me.) (current version: 2022-10-28, with minor updates 2023-06-19.)

Ok what is a masto?

Kinda like Twitter, but in the ?‍✨‍fediverse‍✨‍?.

(>.>) and what’s the fediverse, silly