Getting Good Penpals, a Slowly Users Guide


Selecting the people we will correspond with

... is one of the best ways to start on the path of exploring the world of Pen pals correspondence.

This page is an enhanced version of a Guide originally posted at the Reddit sub for Slowly app users.

As this Blog allows for better formatting and presentation, this version is now being created and published.


Getting penpals when you are a new Slowly user?

Here's what I would suggest to all new users — rather than posting an Slowly ID code and waiting to see what comes in, I would recommend that you look at the Explorer (or Users list) feature.

Real people's profiles, preferably the ones with an About Me description (hard to tell how someone is otherwise), and then you should certainly find someone interesting.


Trust me — This Will Work.

I use the method described above, and it does work. Not always will you get a reply, sometimes people won't respond, but what can you do? Leave it and find another interesting person, do the same.

Soon you should have a group of people you found interesting to correspond with, and maybe some that found you the same way — identifying with your own About Me description, personal preferences, etc.

Have fun, in my opinion this works much better than random people who come to you from a forum posted ID code. Good luck!!

...and that's the End of the original post, folks. Now on to expanding and illustrating each of the main points.

If you feel confident you already know the ideas and how to implement them, go ahead; otherwise, lets go Exploring.


House Rules :

Do you see that little Lamp on the image above, at right? That is a snapshot of the Find New Penpals area, and the lamp at the top corner is linked to the “House Rules” page within the app itself.

I had seen it mentioned, but I imagine MOST people have never seen it or read them — so here is a full copy. We have to abide by those terms, or you could get Reported, and your account terminated.

To ensure a friendly social environment, please reconfirm you will obey the following house rules when using Slowly.

  • No spam or solicitation
  • No contact details in the first letter
  • No flirting without consent
  • No pushing to send photos
  • No racism, bullying or violence

These house rules are drafted based on the original Terms of Service which you have accepted upon registration. Violating these terms may lead to account termination.

Happens a lot, there are Scammers and Spammers here too, sadly. But they get removed soon after joining. ALL users have to accept the extensively detailed Slowly Terms of Service, .


There's Three Ways to Find a Partner

And they all have Advantages and Disadvantages. I believe you should know a bit about them before deciding which method to use, or even to try one of those.

Knowledge is Power, and learning their basics will yield better outcomes.

Going in the order they show in the image above, which is a snapshot of the Mobile version of Slowly, we find :

  1. Auto-Match.
  2. Explore Manually.
  3. Add friend by Slowly ID.

Let's examine and expand each one. See the linked pages for each stage above.

Read Getting Good Penpals – 2. Three Ways to Go” next — where we explain the Auto-Match and Explore Manually options.

And the “Add Friend by Slowly ID” has many questions, to be discussed in detail. “Getting Good Penpals – 3. Adding by Slowly ID” is now ready.


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